We had a big change in the Casey household this week. I have started working part time and will now be spending more time with Baby L.
I also experienced one of those inevitable rough parenting days. It seemed like no matter what I did, Baby L kept getting hurt.
No matter what happens, every mom will have an awful day where nothing seems to go right.
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My Inevitable Rough Parenting Day
The first incident started out with me pulling the blinds up so that baby boy could look out the window, only to have the blinds fall off the window onto his head. The day ended with Baby L getting his finger stuck in a cabinet door and scraping his finger drawing blood (which I might add was the cherry on top of this hard day). Not only that but there were a few other accidents sandwiched in between that I won’t bore you with.
All day I beat myself up and felt so guilty. I don’t know what I could have done differently; I was by his side all day and was supervising him closely, but as I’m sure you mommies out there know, babies are fast and change direction in the blink of an eye. I kept reliving each scenario and just could not move on from it.
Beating myself up
“Maybe you should just go back to work full time.”
“You can’t do this.”
“You’re his mom, you should be able to watch him and he should not be getting hurt (this much).”
“You can’t even protect him from the smallest things.”
And over and over and round and round all day.
Towards the end of the day, I had to just tell myself that this day was a wash emotionally and that tomorrow would be better and you know what? It was!
As a mom, we are our worst critics and until you can forgive yourself about whatever the scenario may be, you are probably going to have a tough time moving forward.
A few things you have to remember:
- You are not a failure, you are doing your best
- The fact that you worry about being a good mom means you already ARE a good mom
- The good days will ALWAYS outweigh the bad ones
- Sometimes you need to just cry, reset and move forward
- You will make mistakes; learn from them and move on. Tomorrow is a new day
I hope you can take my story and it will help you when you are having an especially tough day.
What do you do when you have one of those inevitable rough parenting days? I would love to hear from you!
